Personal power is never fully developed. Like your body, it needs exercise. Not a couple of times a week. Instead, conscious training several times a day. It feels good to give, but that’s never true for your personal power. That’s yours, and whether you know it or not, you are likely to be giving it up every day.
To develop habits that ingrain beliefs, values and help you become at one with yourself. When you know yourself, value yourself and stay true to you, you’ll find meaningful purpose in all areas of life. At the core of the true you is the ability to bring the best out in those around you.
7 Ways Personal Power May Be Weakened
Forgetting to be Assertive
The only time it is acceptable to be passive is when you really don’t care. Letting people treat you like a doormat will drain your energy. Have enough personal power to stand up for yourself. Otherwise, people will keep on putting you down.
Listening to the Itty Bitty Critic in Your Mind
Be aware of your consciousness because that’s the critic that will drain you the most and keep on taking. If you find this becoming problematic, reinforcing affirmations are the weapon to use to halt it. Taking up a meditation or mindfulness practice can be very helpful when dealing with negative thoughts and thought patterns.
Putting Up With Any Sort of Manipulation
Manipulators will keep on taking if you let them. People who constantly take with zero reciprocation are a drain on your energy. You have the power to decide to get away from that situation.
Putting Everyone Else’s Needs Before Your Own
You cannot be everything to everyone. You can be your best by your own standards. Take actions that feel right to you and don’t try to into the norm of society to please everyone else. Please yourself. Not society.
Being Overly Critical of Others
You may not be a judgemental person, but you are not immune to making snap judgments. Other people can influence your behavior if you let them. Office gossip, friends talking down about someone else or neighbors talking about a new person moving into the house across the street. Those seemingly innocent conversations can bring about negative energy, influencing your behavior around new people you meet.
Apologizing When There is No Need
The time for sorry is when you know you have made a mistake. Not when you need someone’s attention. For that, excuse me will do the same job. An easy way to be aware of your apologetic language is to make it a rule never to follow “I’m sorry” with “but.” I’m sorry but… contradicts the apology.
Focusing Mainly on Self Centered Goals
There has been a big movement in recent years towards a focus on self growth and achievement. We all need to look out for ourselves and be involved in self care, and we also need to be involved with family and community efforts. It’s all about finding the right balance.
An abundant life is more than your career. Life goals are about helping you reach your dream life. Not about what work will make you rich so you can buy material things to satisfy an ego. Focus on lifestyle goals that include family, relationships, finance, health, career – Inner satisfaction. Otherwise, you will continue working monotonous jobs, keep giving personal power away to unsatisfying relationships, and waste money trying to satisfy the need to fill a void.
That’s the makings of a true leader. Leading from a place of wisdom and not using positional power alone. If you enjoy working with the chakras, the third solar plexus chakra is the energetic seat of personal power.
You can have positional power and personal power, but you cannot be an effective leader without personal power. Nor do you need the positional power to be a driving force for good in your own life and those around you.
3 Tips to Boost Your Personal Power
Keep a Beginner’s Mind … Always Learning
Commit to consistent learning and be broad about the topics you study. Study life and attend seminars and workshops to build your expertise. Most important is to learn more about yourself continually. Try new things, experiment, take some risks and put yourself into situations that make you feel vulnerable. Go to the cinema after work instead of feeling the need to have drinks with your colleagues, just because you feel the need to fit in. Do what feels right by you.
Practice Mindfulness With a Gratitude Journal
Practicing gratitude is among the most positive habits you can develop. Keeping a gratitude journal can serve you in multiple ways. You’ll feel better, sleep better, eat healthier, have stronger relationships with everyone important in your life, and you’ll feel happier for being grateful for everything you have surrounding you.
Be Authentic to Yourself … And Accountable to Others
Authenticity is about being true to you. It is only possible when you have in-depth knowledge and know your strengths and weaknesses. You will begin to act with deliberate intentions that are in line with your moral compass. You will know your place and when to delegate and how to go about using your relationship skills to get people to do things for you that you know they’ll do a better job than you could if you were to try. Gregg Braden offers a fantastic online seminar for free, on the human condition and how to release limiting beliefs.
That’s where coming from a place of personal power to influence others will help push you toward reaching your goals faster, because you will have strong relationships with people who value your input, expertise, trust your credibility and will help you when you ask, without hesitation.
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