Finding Closure and Embracing New Beginnings
There has to be endings to create new beginnings. An old year ends and a New Year begins, full of promises of change and new experiences. Mitch Albom, author of “The Five People You Meet in Heaven,” wrote: “All endings are also beginnings. We just don’t know it at the time.”
It’s a great way to look at endings in our lives. Some endings, such as the death of a loved one, will leave you sad, but if you can accept it as an entire host of good memories and eventually go on with what the new beginnings have in store for you, you’ll live a happier and more fulfilled life.
Each step in your life is necessary for you to continue growing. The end of high school or college signifies the beginning of an adult lifestyle and possibly a career that you’ve studied for.
Every New Year is an opportunity for you to sit down and figure out what you want to do differently this year that will make you a better and happier person. Do you want to lose weight, quit smoking, move on to another job? Now is the time to rethink and reset your goals and make the necessary changes in your life.
An ending can only come when you let go of thinking about them.
When negative things get to be beyond your control, you’ve got to distance yourself and begin to make a space for the positive. Otherwise, it will interfere with the future you want to have and keep you from making the changes you need to make.
Get a grip on the reality of endings.
You don’t have to like all of them, but you do need to accept the reality of what they are. If you don’t learn to accept endings to allow for new beginnings, you could simply give up and that would mean unhappiness and a lifetime of regrets.
Think about things in a new way.
You may think of yourself as “set in your ways,” about certain things, but you have the right to change your mind if something occurs (such as more knowledge) to tilt your thinking another way. Sometimes it helps to gain a fresh perspective on life and let go of old beliefs.
Remember, if you don’t take chances, change isn’t possible. You can hold on to the good things in your life, but if a new idea triggers excitement and fulfillment in your life, try it. If you don’t, you may regret it.
Adjust Your Sails to the Future
“When you can’t change the direction of the wind – adjust your sails,” is a quote from inspirational writer, H. Jackson Brown, Jr, is one that has depth and meaning if there are things going on in your life that you can’t control.
The only things you can change are those which you have control over. Therefore, you need to find a way to get on with your life (adjust your sails) and look to the future rather than spending more time on what’s not working.
If a sailor knows a storm is coming from a certain direction, he or she will adjust the sails and let the wind blow them in the opposite direction. Remaining on the same course might mean being caught up in a disaster that could sink the boat.
It’s the same with your life. Continuing on a course where disaster is looming and just waiting to take you down might make it impossible for you to ever get out of the “storm,” and head on to safe passage.
It may be difficult to change a course that you’ve been on for a long time. That route is familiar and even though filled with turmoil, it can be strangely comfortable.
Taking an unknown course of action may be scary, but necessary.
If you’re to get on with your life and take action to make changes that will bring you success and happiness.
The first thing you must do to rid yourself of fear for the uncharted course is to stop worrying. Practice replacing negative thoughts with positive ones and soon it will become automatic.
Mentally prepare yourself by gathering knowledge about your new course of action.
Visualize yourself in your new role in the future. You may still run into situations you’re unprepared for – and you may make some wrong decisions on the path – but, perseverance will get you through the dark and stormy times and guide you to safety.
Next, remove the negative elements from your life. It may be difficult, because some of the negative elements might be friends, family and others, but it’s a necessary action that must happen before you can get through the present storm in your life.
Set goals, take action on them and stay the course. You’ll soon realize your dreams and desires for the future.